Family violence is an issue that affects many, though it is something rnany people feel uncomfortable talking about. It’s about and control, using words or actions to intentionally harm another person in their life. Not all forms of abuse leave bruises or scars, but they can be just as damaging as physical abuse.
Some examples of abusive behaviours:
- Name calling put downs
- Constant criticism
- Constant yelling
- Blaming others for their abusive behaviours
- Intentionally embarrassing someone
- Controlling What a person wears or who they see
- Isolating you by not allowing you to leave the house
- Threats to expose secrets
- Threats at violence or suicide to prevent someone from leaving
- Using jealousy to excuse abusive behaviours
- withholding or taking away money
- Preventing someone from working or attending school
- Sending unwanted text messages
- Leaving unwanted gifts
- Showing up unannounced
- Stealing money or property
- Selling or damaging property
- Criticism or preventing participation in spiritual or cultural practices
- Forcing someone to behave in a way that is against their beliefs
- Forcing a person to engage in spiritual or cultural activities against their will
- Threats to take away children
- Threats or deportation
How to respond
It someone tells you that they are experiencing family violence, the most supportive thing to do is believe them without judgement. Listening is very powerful, you do not have to solve their problems, just provide a space for them to tell their story You can also let them know others that can help, if they would like to reach out.
Reaching out for help
If you, or someone you know, is experiencing family violence, there is help. Help can look like a lot of different things, Such as staying safe while in the relationship, leaving the relationship, and help for those who have already left. Family violence is complicated, and everyone’s needs are different.
Anyone who experiences violence deserves help. it is never deserved. and it is never ever the victim’s fault.
To get help or learn how to help someone in need, contact 211:
- Dial 2-1-1
- Text INFO to 211
- Chat online at www.ab.211.ca